Big, Large, & Thick Dildo Toys: An Insider’s Guide to Giant Dildos

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Let’s be real. If you use dildos, you’re curious about what a giant dildo will feel like. 


Is it something you can take? Would the stretch feel good to you? Why do other people enjoy it so much? 


If nothing else, it’s a science experiment waiting to happen. How much can your body take? Some people love the thrill of moving from a smaller dildo to a larger one, treating it like a challenge. 


Or maybe you are bored of the regular-sized dildos. Part of the fun of using sex toys is experimenting with them. It’s how you find out what you like and don’t like. It’s a safe way to explore your sexual interests. 


So, let’s take a look at the different sizes for giant dildos and what you should try for your first time. 

What Is a Giant Dildo?


Dildos are sex toys often made to look like the male penis. These are toys for internal stimulation. So, a person using it will usually insert it into their vagina, anus, or even the mouth. Some dildos have a curve at the tip so they hit your prostate or the G-spot at the right angle. 


And so, a giant dildo is a larger version of the regular dildo. The average dildo is about 4 to 6 inches. 


If the dildo is 2.5 to 4 inches in length, it is smaller in length than the average biological male. If you’ve never used a dildo before, you probably want to start here.


The medium size dildos are anything over 6 to 8 inches. A 2015 study concludes women at least prefer their dildo to be 6.3 inches, with a girth of 4.8 inches. 


Large dildos are anything over 8 to 12 inches. Some companies even sell bigger than 12 inches. 


If you’ve been using average-size dildos for a while, it might be time to upgrade to large dildos. It’s not only about the length, but the girth as well. 


Manufacturers make the girth proportional to the length. So, when you are using regular-size dildos, you could be potentially missing out on what it feels like to be fuller. 


And no, using a large dildo does not mean you are sending some kind of signal to your partner they aren’t enough.


Big black dildos have existed for a minute. Scientists have found an 8-inch penis-shaped tool in Germany that dates back 30,000 years ago. Not long ago, a realistic dildo was also found in Poland. The dildo had a leather body and wooden tip. It was 8-inch long and at least 250 years old. 


In Ancient Greece, they would make dildos out of breadsticks. This is discussed in detail in historian Paul Chrystal’s book “In Bed With The Ancient Greeks: Sex and Sexuality in Ancient Greece.”


So, dildos, large and small, have existed for as long as humans have. 

Why Choose a Giant Dildo?


Part of the reason some prefer giant dildos isn’t even about a kink. 


Dildos should be long because you want to get a better grip on the toy while using it. If the dildo is 4 to 6 inches, the insertable length left after you hold it is 2 to 3 inches. 


By this logic, an 8-inch dildo will still have an insertable length of 5 to 6 inches.


But if you do focus on what’s appealing about large dildos, different users seem to have different opinions. 


Some like the stretch. Some enjoy a hint of pain. 


If you are a solo user, large toys give you a better grip. You have complete control over the dildo, which can intensify the pleasure.


If it’s large enough, the feeling is incredibly intense. Some compare it to being fisted


Some even like it for the challenge. Because they managed to take the 8-inch in, what about trying the 10-inch? And when they do take the 10-inch in, let’s see if we can go up to 12 inches. These kinds of challenges are more fun when you have a partner, who might enjoy prepping you for it. 


The thing about giant dildos is you have to work up to it. You can’t use a 5-inch and then switch to a 13-inch. You won’t feel good and it would be money down the drain. 


But if you work up to it, you will know exactly why large dildos feel good. The cliffnote version is that you feel stuffed, you have more control over the dildo, and it feels super intense. 

5 Types of Giant Dildos: Black Dildos and More

1. Black Dildos

Black dildos are nothing but giant dildos. Manufacturers tend to make the dildos super big in length and girth. And it so happens, the larger the dildo, the darker the color. 


Many of them are also realistic dildos, so they come curved tips and textured veins.


Look at the bestseller from Doc Johnson. It’s pitch black, 12 inches in length with a 10.25-inch girth. The fake veins have a particular unique texture.  Doc Johnson specifically uses a trademarked material called ULTRASKYN, which is a mix of rubber and plastic. 


There is a compatible suction cup included and you can match it with a harness. 


You might also like black dildos If you’ve got a black partner or if you’re black yourself. Especially in sapphic relationships, it could be a way to feel closer to your partner. 

2. Realistic Dildos

Realistic dildos look like a real penis. They usually have balls, a shaft, and veins. 


People want it to feel like the real thing. So the material used is usually silicone or ABS plastic, which are flexible. Skin color dildos also tend to be more common in the realistic category for this reason. People want the visual experience and sensation. 


But, you can also find transparent ones like the 7.5-inch one from PIPEDREAM


Often, these dildos will come with a suction cup. You can stick the cup to a flat surface like the wall or a harness and attach the dildo to it. 


In partner play, realistic dildos are popular among heterosexual couples where the women might want to do the pegging. 


You might like the Strap On Me Harness Lingerie Heroine if that’s the goal here. 

3. Non-Phallic Dildos

These dildos don’t look like a penis. They are long sticks, but they don’t have a curve at the tip or a ball at the base like realistic dildos do. The design is so different, someone unfamiliar with sex toys will mistake it for a regular tool. 


They also usually happen to be vibrating ones. A good example is the Shibari HALO Wireless 10X Wand. It looks like a microphone and the shape can do the job of a dildo without being phallic. 


This type of dildo won’t naturally hit your g-spot or prostrate. You have to be intentional with the usage and how you position it. But it vibrates, which might be what you want while combining it with the sensation of feeling stretched out. 

4. Double-Ended Dildos

Double-ended dildos are where you can insert it from both ends. A person with a vagina could use both ends- one side on the vagina and the other on the anus. 


Lesbian couples might have the most fun with it, where two people could use each end at the same time. This Pipedream Products Fetish Fantasy Double Delight Strap-On comes with an adjustable harness. The insertable length is  6 inches and the girth is 4.75 inches.


You could both influence how the other feels, which adds to the experience.  

5. Glass Dildos

Glass dildos are uniquely cold. Some like the feeling of something large and cold inside stretching them. You can warm up glass dildos, but the main attraction is the cold sensation. 


Glass dildos are also incredibly smooth. There is less friction while inserting it, so you can focus on the pleasure more. 


They are also non-porous and easy to clean. Although, you want to avoid glass dildos with paint on them. You don’t want the pain to chip and end up inside you while using it. 


Glass is also prone to cracking. So, while we recommend glass dildos like the large one from NS Novelties Crystal Heart of Glass Pink, you should check for cracks before using one. 

How to Use a Giant Dildo for the First Time


The good thing about trying a giant dildo is it’s not your first time trying one altogether. And if it is, stop right now. 


Go for a beginner-friendly dildo and work your way up to your ideal size. 


If you are using a 6-inch dildo, go for an 8-inch next, and then opt for a 10-inch. 


Start with Foreplay: You know your body better than we do. What are some actions you know arouses you? Maybe give your nipples a squeeze or use your favorite vibrator. 


If you have a partner, you could ask them for a sensual massage or maybe a little oral action. 


The goal is to get you to relax. Your mind should not be on the length you are about to take in, but enjoying the moment. 


Use Lube and Go Slow: There is not a single scenario where you want to insert something and you skip out on the lube. You insert a finger in there, you should be lubing it up first.


But you should especially have your lube ready before you insert a giant dildo. 


A quick rule of thumb: If it’s a silicone or any other non-porous toy, go for oil-based lube for your first time. Water-based lube could dry out fast. 


If it’s latex or plastic, you can go for a water-based lube or silicone-based lube, which balances the scale a little.


But remember, never pair the same kind of chemical with the same material. Don’t pair silicone toys with silicone lube and latex toys with oil-based lube. 


Use triple the lube you think you need. If you are planning on using it for anal sex, go crazy with the lube. It is always better to have more lube than less. 


And then, go slow. Insert a little bit at a time. Let yourself adjust to the sensations and then try getting in more of the length. Take generous breaks. There is no need to rush. 


And if at any point, you feel pain, stop. 


Change Positions: Your body has to be relaxed. And it’s not unusual to start feeling discomfort if you are in a particular position for a long time. 


Because this is a game of patience. 


Sex expert Sammi Cole suggests lying on your back and propping a pillow underneath you. Raise your legs and spread them wide. 


Another alternative is to lower yourself onto the dildo. This allows you to focus on inserting it without worrying about what to do with your hands. 


If you are trying a big dildo with a partner, make sure you are on the same page. Communicate verbally what you need and when they should stop or keep going. 


Don’t try to brave it. Your partner doesn’t want to hurt you, but they won’t know if you are experiencing discomfort if you don’t communicate. 

Your Guide to Buying Giant Dildos


With dildos, there are 4 things you have to check on the product description:

1. Material

 The safest choice of material for any sex toy is always silicone, glass, wood, or metal. These are nonporous items, so the bacteria doesn’t settle in if you maintain a proper cleaning schedule. 


According to adult toy reviewer Amy Norton, you should avoid anything gel or jelly-based. These are products with phthalates and this is a chemical you want far away from your body. 


PVC, latex, and TPE don’t leak chemicals, but they are porous materials. Bacteria can leak into the inside of these materials. And dildos go inside you, so it’s not a great idea. 


If you use them, you need to be super thorough with the cleaning.


Even then, it’s hard to clean porous materials by 100%. An effective solution is to put on a condom on the large dildo. 


Some people specifically love latex or TPE dildo. They prefer it to glass or wood because it feels closer to human skin. Silicone is also a popular choice due to its flexibility for this reason. 

2. The Length and Insertable Length

Depending on the manufacturer, the size chart for dildos may be different. 


But overall, you can break down dildo size into three categories:


Small Dildos: This is anything from 2.5 to 6 inches. Now, lots of people may not even consider dildos in the 2.5 inches to 4 inches category to be dildos. Many think of them as butt plugs. 


4 to 6 inches in length is the average size for dildos. If you have used a dildo before today, you’ve probably used on in this zone. If not, this Empire Labs Vibrating Clone A Willy is a good place to start. 


Medium Dildos: A medium dildo will be around 6 to 8 inches.


Some manufacturers consider 8 to 10 inches the medium too. These are bigger than the average penis size. If you plan on using it for vaginal sex, you may or may not have to train your body for it. 


But if you want it for anal sex, you will definitely have to train up to it. 


The Blush Neo Elite 8 Inch Dual Density Cock with Balls is a good starting point for this. 


Large Dildos: Anything from 8 to 12 inches is large. But for those who like being full and stretched, it’s unlikely they will consider anything under 10 inches large. 


To put it in a real-world context, a 12-inch dildo is the same length as a classroom ruler. 


What you want to do is start with a small dildo, work your way up to a medium dildo, and then go for a large dildo. Using a dildo for the first time is the toughest. 


The transition from small to medium is pretty smooth. From medium to large, it’s essentially a piece of cake. Your body knows exactly how to relax beforehand at this point. 


You know it won’t hurt, so you don’t tense up in fear either. 


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One thing to remember while buying a dildo is the difference between total length and insertable length. A dildo could be 12 inches, but only 8 inches will actually go inside you. 


This is the length left after the base area for realistic dildos. Additionally, you also have to account for the amount of space your hand takes up to grip the dildo. 

3. The Girth

Suppose you insert a 12-inch dildo, but you don’t feel the stretch, it’s not fun, is it? Kind of defeats the purpose. 


The girth is another thing you want to check. Although, if a dildo is long, the girth almost always measures up. 


Now, some manufacturers might mention the width of the dildo, but not the girth (the circumference). 


You can use this chart to get a rough calculation: 


Width 

Approximate Girth

1 inch

 3 to 3.5 Inches

1.5 inches

 4 to 4.5 inches

2 inches

 5.5 to 6 inches

2.5 inches 

 7 to 7.5 Inches

3 inches

 8 to 8.5 Inches


The average penis is 4.5 inches in girth. If you opt for one with 8.5 inches in girth, you are practically taking in something double the size. 


Even if you could take a 12-inch dildo in length, you will have to work up to it in terms of girth. 

Cleaning and Caring for Your Large Dildo

You should clean your dildo before and after use. Now, how you clean them depends on the material. 


If it’s silicone, glass, or metal, sex therapist Shadeen Francis suggests filling a tub with warm water and soap. Submerge the dildos there for 15 minutes and then rinse them in cold water. 


We would prefer you clean your dildo before you use it any day. But if there’s some urgency or you don’t have the time, sex therapist Casey Tanner suggests putting a condom on the toy before using.


You should still try to clean it before your next use, but at least it doesn’t have to be tonight. 


Now, if it’s PVC, latex, or any dildo with porous material, do not soak the dildo. Instead, submerge a washcloth in warm, soap water and then wring it out. 


Then, use it to wipe the dildo. Don’t rinse it, but let it air dry. 


Cleaning isn’t enough. Proper storage also matters. 


In all honestly, you should clean your toy if you so much as switch it from your vagina to your anus. 


But it’s impossible to be steadfast to the level. So, what you want to do is put a condom on the toy. Then, suppose you use it orally and want to switch it to your vagina after, replace the condom with another one before the switch.  


Don’t go around throwing the the toy to the floor after you use it either. You are inviting bacteria to gather on it. 


Now, you might not have the energy to wash it right then.Lisa Finn, a sex educator, suggests using baby wipes or a toy cleaner to give it a quick wipe down. 

Final Thoughts

If this is your first time buying a giant dildo, don’t go for more than 2 inches up in size than your usual. Your body has its limits. If you try something too large in one go, you might end up hating the experience. 


Instead, start small. Plus, wouldn’t it be fun to create a dildo collection of all sizes?


As far as sex toys go, dildos are a little obvious. You know what it’s used for the moment you look at it. It’s why you should opt for retailers with discreet packaging. We are also generous with discounts. 


If you have any questions or want a more personal approach on which dildo to opt for, leave a comment!

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