Do you miss the desperate intensity of the first few months of your relationship? Is the spark long gone? Do you not like them anymore? Unlikely.
What you’re experiencing is familiarity. Nothing the best sex toys for couples and personal lubes can’t fix.
In fact, try to shop for them together. Of course, you should discuss if your partner is even open to using sex toys first. And set clear rules before, during, and after using the toys.
The key here is to find toys for couples and not for solo use. Thankfully, sex toys aren’t limited to heterosexual couples. Intimate toys today are much more:
- Technologically advanced with Bluetooth and batteries
- Affordable
- Accessible as they’re available online instead of only in shady brick-and-mortar shops
- Available for couples of all genders and sexual orientations.
Naturally, this means we have a list of the 10 best sex toys for couples in 2024. Ones you should- hear me out - pair with lube to make the experience safer and pain-free.
The Top 10 Sex Toys for Couples in 2024
1. The Revolutionary Couple's Vibrator
The amazing thing about vibrators is they’re meant for both men and women. Take Pipedream’s Ultimate Pleasure Kit for example– it’s got a textured sleeve, C-ring, Mini bullet vibe, and slimline vibe. It’s perfect for couples experimenting for the first time.
By combining the C-ring with the slimline vibe and the bullet, you can easily create your own rabbit-style vibrator. This is a scenario where you’re getting stimulated externally and internally.
Someone with a penis might enjoy the C-ring around their shaft as well. They can edge themselves with the bullet or without it.
The bullet is best if you want a steady vibration, sort of as an aid to build up to the ultimate moment. Meanwhile, the slimline is great if you want to experiment with different speed settings.
The toys are all waterproof and powered by batteries. So, yes, you can use them in the shower or bathtub, though you should be careful not to trip on your own feet.
2. The Dual Pleasure Toy
There’s something thrilling about sharing the same toy with your partner. Especially something like the Deia Couple Two-In-One Massager. Its two ends will allow you to stimulate yourself and your partner simultaneously.
It’s got two motors, with one side for internal play and the other for external. The bullet is in this secret area, so you have to unscrew the G-sport shaft to find it. It is rigid and firm and great for clitoral and anal stimulation.
Basically, you’re gearing up for a shared orgasm.
You will have fun teasing your partner because this one’s got 10 unique vibration settings, with 3 base speeds and 7 patterns. The toy also feels good on the skin, since it’s got a smooth, silicone surface.
3. Remote Controlled Teasers
Vibrators are fun little things on their own. But when you add a remote control to the mix, it adds an entirely new dimension to foreplay.
There’s trust and comfort in letting your partner decide how and when you receive pleasure. You get to experience control in a safe environment and a play like this builds up anticipation for the main act.
Lelo IDA Wave Rotating Vibrator is the perfect toy if you’re into orgasm control. The top part stimulates the clitoris while the insertable rotating tail hits the G-spot. The vibration mimics finger motion, which makes it easy to imagine your partner doing it to you.
And if you really want to make a show, and live out your Fifty Shades of Grey fantasies, you can wear them before you head out to dinner. Hand the remote control over to your partner and let them decide which of the 10 vibration modes to set and when.
Keep it a surprise and see if you can keep your cool in public. Or you could be the one with the remote control.
4. Adjustable Position Aids
Trying out new sex toys can be uncomfortable. You might not understand the settings or have difficulty getting into the right position to really enjoy what the toy can do.
This can be easily solved with a position aid. You might be thinking, why not just fold a regular pillow?
Well, because those aren’t made for sex. For example, the Liberator Wedge is firm enough to support the weight of two people but soft enough to poke your back. It provides more height and stability and it’s big enough so you have something to grab as well. It’s also got washable covers and moisture-resistant liners so you can clean up any mess you two make together.
In contrast, the Dame Pillo’s got handles which is something to grab onto if things get rough. It also looks close to a normal pillow with more height so it blends into the bedroom. It’s got a balance of sturdiness and softness.
5. Sensory Play Delights
Sensory toys are meant to stimulate one of your five senses. It can be something as simple as the blindfold.
Sensory play toys are certainly not for beginners, but if you are interested, Sportsheets’s S&M Sensory Fingertips might be the best one to start with. The fingertips are rounded so the applied pressure can be as firm or as gentle as you want.
Rather than relying on electronic items, this one creates a more intense experience with your lover. They feel your touch and you feel their skin, but it’s much more heightened.
Certainly, something all sapphics would want to add to their collection.
6. Smart Toys for Synced Pleasure
Smart toys have come a long way. From allowing USB recharge to switching to in-app control from remote control.
We-Vibe Moxie+ Panty Vibe is a good example of the fun you can have with smart toys. It’s super quiet with a magnetic clip to keep it in place. Since it’s small and shaped to your body, no one would suspect a thing if you wear it in public.
The complimentary app lets you add your partner as another controller. So, even if you are both at your respective jobs, they can control the vibrations from the other end.
If your partner is in a different time zone, these toys can make you feel a lot closer to them. Plus, it’s also a good way to not go celibate and stay connected to your partner while they’re away.
7. Inclusive Toys and Games
The sex positivity movement and the acceptance of sex toys have been largely possible due to the efforts of the LGBTQ+ community. So, it would be a shame if there weren’t toys catering to their specific needs.
Thankfully, we do have innovative toys like the Swizzle Sticks and Bi G Spot Vibe.
You don’t have to limit yourself to toys either. There are plenty of adult games available that take into account all body types, preferences, and the number of partners a person may have.
8. Strap-ons and Harnesses for Versatile Play
Contrary to popular belief, strap-ons aren’t only meant for sex between two women. You can easily find strap-on harnesses for people with penises and vaginas. There are heterosexual couples where the man might enjoy anal penetration, whether he is straight or bisexual.
It works best when you combine the harness with a compatible dildo. Strap-ons can help you get a better angle on your partner and hit the G-spot. And since it’s adjustable, it’s great for couples of all sizes and shapes.
It does take some time to get used to, so wear and adjust it first before using it. Maybe watch videos of people using it and try strap-friendly positions. You also want to use your hand to control it.
9. Rings and Sleeves
Often, it seems like sex toys for couples are centered around women. But that’s not the case. You just need to find the right combination of toys.
Take the experience of combining C-rings with sleeves for example. Sleeves add girth for penis owners while C-rings slow down the blood flow. Sleeves also have some hand in decreasing the sensitivity level.
It makes your partner last longer and allows them to focus on your pleasure as well. Some C-rings, like the one from Romp Juke also have vibrators attached to them. With 6 modes and 4 patterns, these vibrations are meant for the women to stimulate their clitoris when it comes in contact with the C-ring.
10. Luxury Massagers
Prostate massagers are like the secret weapon among sex toys. Just look at the one from Lelo Hugo. It’s remote-controlled, so you could have hours of fun switching between the 8 vibration settings and controlling when and how your partner gets stimulated.
It’s motion sensitive with two motors for the prostrate and the base. It can be quite the experience, helping your partner through an orgasm with a prostate massager and the occasional press of your fingers.
Care and Maintenance of Your Toys
Even if you’re using body-safe material, if you don’t clean the toys after every use, you’re leaving yourself open to bacterial infection and STIs.
It doesn’t matter if you only use the toy with your long-term partner. It’s not a good idea to use something with your body fluid in it without cleaning it.
The material of your toy determines how you should clean it, but the basics are this:
- Warm water and soap or sex toy cleaner for anything non-porous.
- If it’s porous, you want to dip a washcloth in a soapy cold or room temperature water and then clean the material.
Non-porous material should also be air-dried, while porous substances should be kept in a clean drawer.
Additionally, if it’s a non-electrical toy, you can also submerge it in the water. But electrical items should only be wiped with a washcloth.
Remember, if there’s a crack or tear in the toy, you should immediately throw it out. You don’t want to insert anything with a defect in it inside your body.
Overall, it’s a good idea to replace your sex toys with new ones after a year or two, unless it’s particularly expensive.
To increase the longevity of your toys, you should also consider using more lube while using the toys. It will drastically reduce the chances of infection and since the slide of the toys will be smoother, you are avoiding potential damage to the toys from rough use too.
Final Thoughts
Well, what are you waiting for? If you’re reading this article, you’re interested - big time! Send the link to your partner and see how they react. Who knows, maybe they’ve been planning on bringing up the subject for a while too.
It absolutely doesn’t speak to your or your partner’s abilities if you want to use sex toys in the bedroom. In fact, using and practicing with them could make you even more of a skilled lover.
Even if your sex life is at its peak, using the best sex toys for couples could only make your sex life better. It’s one way to make sure you never get bored of each other.
But remember, research first. Before you use any toy, make sure to read the label, watch videos or blogs on how to use the toy, and discuss beforehand if you’re both comfortable with the toy.
