Decoding Man’s Desires: The Top Toys that Amplify Pleasure

There’s almost as much of a stigma around self-pleasure for men as there is for women. It’s a different kind of stigma, where men have permission to masturbate, but only with rules set by society. 

But with the internet and feminism, not only is women’s desire getting more attention, but so are men’s. Sex tech companies are waking up and so are men who would shy away from using a sex toy even 5 years ago. 

It’s important to know your body and have a good relationship with it for a healthy life. And one way to do it is to actually explore it. 

So, let’s take a look at the various categories of adult toys for men as well as the 10 best sex toys for men. 

The Significance of Self-Pleasure for Men

Society never created as big of a stigma for masturbation around men as it did for women. But it did limit how men could go about achieving self-pleasure. 

For years, it was almost expected of men to masturbate. But the right came with odd limitations. The act should only involve their hand and nothing else. 

Men can’t use sex toys or other aids. Those are for women, if we aren’t busy shaming them for thinking about sex at all. 

It’s part of the reason men treat masturbation as almost routine rather than self-care. 

This is clear from a study done by the condom brand Trojan and the Sex Information and Education Council of Canada (SIECCAN). 38% of women report masturbation to be more pleasurable than 29% of men. Yet, 65% of men engage in self-pleasure activities in a week compared to 35% of women. 

As sexologist Robin Milhausen points out, women tend to have a plan when they masturbate. More than anything, 54% of women use a vibrator during the last round of self-pleasure. 46% of them agree it made the act even more enjoyable. 

In comparison, men are 25% less likely to use adult toys while masturbating. 

Even among men, queer men have always been more confident about exploring their sexuality. They’re marginalized as it is. They don’t have to follow the heterosexual rule book for sex and relationships. 

As the co-founder of Healthy Pleasure Group, Dr. Maria Peraza Godoy explains, they don’t have the burden of being macho. 

It’s a shame since self-pleasure comes with a host of mental and physical health benefits for men. 

• For one, it can make you better at sex. Toys like the TENGA egg have been used to help men from coming prematurely. 83% of men felt more in control of their orgasms as a result. 
• Sex toy users also feel more sexual desire, better orgasms, and erectile function. In fact, self-pleasure for men is one of the treatments for erectile dysfunction. 
• Toxins usually build up naturally inside and around your genitals. But men who come over 5 times per week get rid of a good portion of these toxins. This lowers your chances of getting prostate cancer. 
• Men release stress hormones when they get off. This is good for their immune system and for getting better sleep.
• Sex toys make you have open discussions with your partner as you get to know your body better. This improves your relationship. 
• Masturbating releases positive chemicals like dopamine and oxytocin. It makes you feel good. A positive spirit is always better mentally.

Don’t feel silly about wanting to try things beyond the societal norm. Let's take a look at beginner’s sex toys for men as well as how to select your first toy. 

 A Beginner’s Guide to Male Toys

Self-pleasure toys for men aren’t as innovative as those for women yet. In some ways, you will have an easier time selecting your first sex toy if you keep a couple of things in mind. 

1. Body-Safe Material

The first rule of using adult toys, you stay away from jelly-based products. They’re porous and often contain phthalates- harmful chemicals. 

You also want to avoid rubber and PVC products as they are porous. But if you do use them, wrap a condom on the toy if you are using it anally or orally. Wrap a condom around your penis you using toys similar to a stroker. 

Meanwhile, silicone, stainless steel, glass, and hard plastic are all safe as they are non-porous. Fluids don’t seep into these toys. Once you sanitize the toys, they remain 100% clean. 

But with glass, you need to check for cracks or chips. You could cut yourself on the toy. Some people also worry the glass might break inside them. So, you want to go for Pyrex glass, which is strong and more receptive to changes in temperature. 

No matter the material of the toy, make it a point to check the smell once you get it in your hands. If you smell anything chemical, trash the toy right away. It doesn’t feel sturdy in your hands? Throw it away. 

You smell burnt batteries? Throw it away. If there is even the tiniest alarming thing about the toy, you should get rid of it. 

Men do prefer softer material if it’s a masturbator and harder material if it’s used anally. Silicone is one material which can be molded into both types.